Saturday, September 13, 2014

Questions for the Wife of a Fool

Questions For The Wife of a Fool
By Guest Blogger Jodi Green. Her story will resonate with so many wives who have discovered their knight has lost his shining armor. 

1 Samuel 25 gives us the story of a wealthy, intelligent and beautiful woman named

Abigail. She is more intimidating to me than the Proverbs 31 woman. In fact, if I could go back

in history and interview anyone, it would be Abigail. Here are the questions I would ask.
So, Abigail, how does a wife submit to a man known as a fool? Throughout the centuries we have taken our hats off to you for your example of a faithful wife. But really…how did you do it? How did you take responsibility for his idiotic decisions? Obviously in ancient times you had far fewer choices than we have today. But even so, weren’t you at all tempted to tell David and his henchmen exactly where to find your drunken, foolish husband?
How did you end up married to Nabal the fool? Did your parents arrange the marriage? Did you see him with rose-colored glasses in the beginning? Was he always known as a fool, or was he respected in the community at one time? Was anyone else aware of the difficult road you walked? Was anyone your confidant?
We know from your words to David that your source of strength was supernaturally from God. We see that you obviously spent deep private moments with the King of kings. What were your deepest prayers? What did you desire most from your Creator? What did He speak to your heart in those quiet moments? Were you ever so discouraged over your circumstances that you wanted to quit? How did God let you know that He would take care of you? What did you do every day to find rest for your soul in the middle of turmoil? Were you able to spend as much time alone with God as you wanted? Did you struggle before God with the “whys” of your life?
What about your in-laws? How did you deal with the people who raised “the fool?” Did you sometimes want to give your mother-in-law a piece of your mind for how he was? Didn’t you want to ask her what she did in raising him, so that you could do the opposite with your own children?
Speaking of children, the Bible gives no record of any children from your marriage to Nabal. Was that by choice? What on earth would you have told your children about their father? Would you have tried to take responsibility for him there? Would you have tried to shelter them from knowing the truth about their father? What would you have done if any of your children had inherited his tendencies? Or worse, what if they had admired him and copied his ways?
Did you ever try to change him? How did you cope when you first realized what a fool he was? Was there any gratification in the fact that his foolish ways were well-known? Or did that bring you further humiliation? How did you remain loyal to a husband like Nabal? Where did you go in your heart to deal with your own emotional needs? Did you pretend in front of him that things were fine? Were you afraid of him?
How did you come to have such an intimate relationship with God? Was your difficult marriage the very thing that drew you closer to your heavenly Father? Were you ever angry with God for your circumstances? Were the words you said to David words that God had whispered to your own heart? Did you ever look down the long road of your future with despair? Did you wonder if you would always be able to cope with Nabal through the years? Did you ever wish he were dead?
Did having plenty of money help your situation any? Many of us with financial burdens often imagine that life would be so much easier if we had enough to pay the bills. Was it easier? Did you have any years where money was tight? Did you ever have to suffer need as the result of his foolish financial decisions? I don’t get the feeling that Nabal would have been open to any financial advice from his wife. How did you deal with that? Did you point out things to your husband? Or did you stay silent? Were you always able to leave your needs in God’s hands? Did you feel frustrated not to be able to see how you could be rescued? Did your faith ever falter under the strain?
How intimate was your relationship with Nabal? Did you long to be able to have an open and respectable conversation with him? Did you ever try to share your feelings with him? Or was it easier to just smile and keep your thoughts to yourself? Did you ever try to point out his foolish ways? How much suffering came because of his attitude toward you?
Did you stick by Nabal because you had no other options? Or was it because you vowed before God, “ ‘Til death do us part.”? Could you have gone back to your father’s house and explained the situation? Did anyone think you should just be happy to have a husband?
I want to go back to why you stood up for Nabal before David. Was that something you regularly had to do? Did you have to do that to protect your own well-being? Did you imagine what your life would be like without Nabal? Why did you protect him from David and his men? Did you not see that as a way out of a painful and difficult situation? Or was there security in knowing how things were? Your servants obviously knew about Nabal’s foolishness and they felt comfortable speaking to you openly about him. How did you keep your respectability with them?
Did you ever spend emotional energy wondering how your life would be without Nabal? Did you love him in spite of his flaws? How does a woman cope with a difficult situation that she cannot change? Did you try to change your situation? Did you long for things to be different in your marriage? Or were you always accepting of it? Were there ever any pleasant moments with Nabal? Or did you sit by the fire at night alone? How does a woman find contentment for her soul when outward circumstances scream pain and frustration? Did you struggle with contentment?
How did Nabal’s drinking affect you? Did he get drunk often or only occasionally? Did you have to make excuses for him? Or did everyone around just accept the situation and steer clear? Did you plead with him not to drink? Were you ever secretly glad that he was too drunk for conversation? Was he meaner when he was drunk? Or was he more foolish? Did you have to deal with him alone?
Did your painful marriage cause you to want to warn other women about marrying a man like Nabal? What would you have taught your own daughters about marriage? Again, we understand that in ancient times women did not have the range of choices that we have today. How did your limited options affect your ability to find contentment?
We learn so much of your character from the eight verses you spoke to David. What were you asking when you said, “But when the Lord has dealt with my lord, then remember your maidservant?” Did you have any idea that God would take you out of your situation? Was there rest and contentment in the hope of change? Or was there “peace in the valley” just knowing God was there?
How often did you have to act to prevent calamity from Nabal’s foolishness? Did you always tell him, after the fact, what you had done to save his hide? How did you feel when he collapsed over the news of his near calamity with David? Did you feel any relief over his demise? What about during the ten days before he died? Did you know he was dying? Was it difficult to care for his needs during those days? Were you afraid of being alone if something happened to him? Was you faith strong during those days, or did you struggle with doubts and fears? We think of you as such a fearless and strong woman for confronting David. Did that come from your own confidence in God’s sovereignty? Did you see everything as being held in God’s hands, as you mentioned several times to David? Did you feel “bound in the bundle of the living with the Lord your God?”
We also have the benefit of “the rest of the story” of how God rescued you. And frankly, life on the run as a fugitive doesn’t sound exactly “happily ever after.” What words of hope and encouragement would you give to women in a difficult situation? I’m not sure I would have been able to be thankful for the events that happened next for you. Was the birth of your son with David so precious that it made up for the pain you had been through?
How can we thank you enough, Abigail, for the powerful example you have been through the ages? Could you have foreseen the impact you would have on women in difficult, even impossible circumstances? Were you able to encourage other women during your earthly lifetime with your own deep faith? You have certainly encouraged us through the years, and I hope that, from your now eternal perspective, you are able to see how profoundly grateful we are for the life you lived here on earth. I hope that my own legacy will be even a portion of the hope and encouragement to absolute faith in God that yours has been. Thank you, Abigail.

Monday, September 1, 2014

Setting Your Course With Words

Setting The Course

By Harriett Ford
We define our lives and set our course with our words. It is a spiritual law that our words produce results (Mark 11:23-24).
We were created to have dominion and authority.
Look at the Tower of Babel. God said man could achieve anything his heart imagined, (Gen. 11:6) so how did God stop this first attempt at a one-world government? He confused their language.
Language gives us tremendous power (Prov. 18: 21) because our mouths can speak God's Truth, or they can speak Satan's lies which always begin with“Has God said?”
Look at The Great Deception of our modern age, the commonly accepted theory of evolution. When it comes to what we believe about how the world was formed, we have only two choices: Nothing formed everything or God did.
If a society believes nothing created the world, then they have no moral accountability. The moral breakdown of our society is quite evident today. Jesus said people who deny the Father are children of the devil (Jn 8:44). They talk, walk, and act accordingly.
Those who serve God have His very words to talk, walk, and act on. We can speak blessing or cursing over ourselves every day. I can say, “This task is something I'll never get done; I'm just too tired.” Or I can say, “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.”
What kind of harvest do I wish to have? I will say like King David, “Father because I set my love on You, You shall be with me in trouble and deliver me. With long life will you satisfy me and show me your salvation” (Psalm 91: 14-16). Amen.

Harriett Ford is a board member of the Awesome Kingdom Experience ministry, in Branson, Mo.

COMMENTS ON AMERICA'S MORAL DECLINE attributed to Rev. Billy Graham
Since the 19th century and the widespread acceptance of the evolutionary theory (which means ultimately that Nothing created Everything) we have seen our school children taught that there is no moral accountability since there is no God. We only have societal norms, and these change according to whoever is in power (godless Obama).
We know God's Word says, 'woe to to those who call evil good,' but that is exactly what we have done. We have lost our spiritual equilibrium and reversed our moral standards. We have banished prayer from school and called it freedom from imposing religion. We have exploited the poor and called it the lottery. We have rewarded laziness and called it welfare. We have killed our unborn and called it choice. We have neglected to discipline our children and called it building self-esteem. We have abused power and called it politics. We have coveted our neighbor's possessions and called it ambition. We have polluted the air with profanity and pornography and called it freedom of expression. We have ridiculed the time-honored values of our forefathers and called it enlightenment. We have legislated approval of some relationships, which Your Word calls an abomination, and called it tolerance. We have reinterpreted, redefined, and even removed parts of your word and called it love and equanimity.
Forgive our nation for setting ourselves above Your Word in order determine our own godless course.
Search us, Oh, God, today; cleanse us from every sin and set us free.