I thought she had the victory and we would be rejoicing together in her healing and her travels with her friend.
Instead, I heard Sue crying once again on the phone, and it's true she has serious reason to feel betrayed.
This kind of thing happens way too often in her life. I love her and want this pattern to stop! She has been crying over various painful situations in her life for years, and while I do hurt for her, I want her to break out of this cycle. Sympathy from me is not the answer.
I have been seeking the Lord on this: He showed me through a very wise friend, the umbrella -principle which leads to victimization.
Some people can inadvertently keep themselves under a curse by having a victim mentality.
They see themselves as victims in almost every situation in life. It usually starts in childhood when they actually have been victims of abuse, neglect, parental dysfunction. They do not have much control over this. This umbrella brings a generational victimization curse which must be dealt with. Deeply dealt with at the very roots.
When they grow up, they still see themselves as victims, even when they become Christians. They do not learn that they don't have to be victims. They pray and worship, but they want God to be their Rescuer, perpetually. They do not learn how to get out of toxic situations.
They cry and complain about every wound in their souls, and yet they set themselves up for defeat time and time again by that very reaction of crying and complaining instead of singing praises.
They bring themselves under the victim's curse by their associations.
Whoever you allow into your life brings an umbrella of curses or blessings. This includes husband, family members, especially those who are still living under the umbrella of generational curses ( such as a dependent brother or sister). The victim, Sue, supports or agrees with them and soon takes on their curses. Once again, she becomes a victim.
She can stop it by refusing the association. This must be done for her own spiritual and mental health. Mistaken charity can bring a curse. It is also not biblically correct to support a relative who chooses not to work. If a man does not work, let him not eat, said Paul.
Then there is another umbrella of curses or blessings in the work place. If an employer is honest, has integrity, kindness, etc. he will bring blessings. And the opposite is also true. I have seen this in effect in my own life to a startling degree.
The perpetual victim has a choice to make. She does not have to remain in toxic relationships. She does not have to allow the victim-wounds to remain in her soul. She can pull these out one at a time and ask the Lord to replace them with the good seed that brings forth the fruit of the spirit. She can continue to bless others and focus on being a blessing, rather than to focus on licking her wounds. That is the quickest way to heal soul wounds and defeat the curse.
It may take confessing to the Father and asking Him to forgive the victim mentality, because He says we are more than a conqueror through Christ, and if we don't see ourselves that way, and break off the old chains of bondage, we are not free.
You shall know the truth, and the truth will set you free!!
Love you with all my heart, faith, and soul,